For those of you with an active Tinder account, you might be familiar with the term Tindstagramming. If you’ve never heard of it before, or are unfamiliar with Tinder, that’s okay, we’ll break it down for you.
First off, Tinder is a popular dating app that launched back in September of 2012. After creating your own account, you’re presented with profiles of other users on the platform. You can choose to either swipe right to match with the person, or swipe left and move on to the next one. For a complete match to be made, both users must swipe right on one another. Once this happens, the messaging function will unlock, allowing you to further connect with your match.
Now for those of you who have used Tinder before. Have you ever found yourself swiping left on a bunch of people, only to find them in your Instagram DM’s later that night? If so, you’ve been the target of the latest dating trend, Tindstagramming. According to New York Magazine, Tindstagramming is defined as “the act of sneaking into someone’s Instagram DMs after failing to match with them on Tinder.”
As we discussed earlier, once someone swipes left on a profile, that’s it. There’s no way to contact this person on Tinder’s platform. This is where Instagram comes in. If you happen to have your Instagram profile linked to your Tinder account, anyone who matches with you will be able to see your Instagram name (as well as any photos you may have on it.) Once that person has your Instagram name, they can easily open the app, find your profile, and send you a DM.
The History Of Tindstagramming
In the early days of Tinder, swiping left on a person’s profile (or having them swipe left on yours) would result in no match being found. Since there was no match, there would also be no way for you to contact the other person. While this aspect of Tinder hasn’t changed, other parts of the dating app have. For example, in a April 2015 update, Tinder made it possible to connect your Instagram account to your Tinder account. And thus the age of tindstagramming was born. Now, any creep with an Instagram profile could slide into your DM’s with the push of a button. No need to even swipe right. All you have to do is match with someone who has their Instagram linked and you can start messaging them immediately.
It Defeats The Purpose Of Matching
One of the worse parts about Tindstagramming, aside from the obvious stalker-level creepiness, is that it entirely defeats the purpose of matching with someone on Tinder. The whole purpose of the platform is to connect you with people who might be interested in you. But if you can just message anyone without their permission, then it cheapens the entire matching process. Sure you could always block someone who’s constantly sending you messages on Instagram. But there’s no reason for it to get to that point. Especially if you’ve already denied that person on another platform.
How To Avoid Being Tindstagrammed
The best thing you can do to avoid being the target of Tindstagramming is to not link your Instagram account to Tinder. If you’re one of the many Tinder users who have already done this however, we highly recommend that you remove this link. Unless you enjoy receiving DM’s from people you have no interest in, then by all means keep your accounts tied together. If you’re like the rest of us however, you can simply remove any ties to Instagram by tapping your profile icon in the tap left corner of the app. Then, tap on the “edit info” button in the middle of the screen. And finally scroll down to the bottom of the screen and tap on “disconnect” under the Instagram photos tab.
That’s all you have to do to stop the many Tindstagrammers out there. Just remember to always stay safe when using online dating apps like Tinder. And make sure you run a background check on anyone you match with. Before you decide to meet with them in person.