If you’re here, you probably want to learn how to improve your child’s self-confidence. What you tell your child can seriously impact their confidence over time. Below are some actionable tips that you can try to help your child be more confident
Don’t Let Their Bad Actions Define Them
If I had a penny for every time I’ve heard someone call their child stupid for a bad decision, I would be a billionaire. Words are very powerful, and that’s why you should be aware of what you say around children. Your child may do something that you don’t agree with, but belittling them isn’t the answer. Instead of deeming your little one foolish, explain to your child why their action was foolish. Providing in-depth explanations will make them understand their wrongdoings. This allows your child to know that you’re not insulting them but addressing their actions. Helping children identify their bad decisions and giving them better alternatives not only boosts their self-confidence, but improves their critical thinking and decision making skills.
Give Praise Where Praise Is Due
Acknowledging the good things that your child does is very important for building self-confidence. An example of someone that demonstrates this very well is Gary Vaynerchuk.
Gary Vaynerchuk was asked “How did you get such high self-confidence?”, to which he replied:
“When I was a kid, my mother overexaggerated when I did very kind and noble things. Like when I opened the door for a woman at McDonald’s in North Brunswick. I’ll never forget this because I was just being polite, but she treated it as if I won the Nobel Peace Prize. She genuinely made me feel like I was unstoppable and capable of anything that I wanted to do, and that’s how I got here today.”
At a young age, this behavior was ingrained in Gary’s mind. Had his mother never praised his good actions like she did, he may not have turned out to be the successful person he is today. That is why praise is important for building your child’s self-confidence.
Teach Them How To Handle Adversity
Life can get tough and when it does, people quit. They start off by saying to themselves, “If I have to do X to get this, then I don’t want to do it.” Ultimately, that mindset and thought process leads to failure because at that point, they’re not willing to put in the effort. It also has a huge effect on them because they start to think of themselves as failures. Children should know that the process is more important than the outcome since its what builds character. Circumstances can never determine who you are as an individual.
When your child starts to understand this, quitting anything will be hard. You can teach your child this by sharing with them stories of your failures or by showing them motivational speakers like Inky Johnson and Les Brown. Explaining to them, that even Michael Jordan was cut from his High School team, is a big kick-start to a new way for them to see life.
By taking these steps, your child is likely to have the confidence they need to experience life to the fullest. Give them praise for their accomplishments and be there for them when they make poor decisions
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